It has been my experience that being in the “Flow” happens with a deep loving, knowing, and understanding that we are all connected together in an intricate web of life, and that we are all co-creating our realities together on this journey.
Today while driving down a major city road, going the speed limit, and attempting to cooperatively get to my destination in a timely manner, on two separate occasions, two different cars pulled out in front of me, forcing me to brake, and slow way down. Then, after putting on my blinkers to change lanes, two different cars in the faster lane sped up next to me, not giving me an opportunity to change lanes.
It seemed as though most everyone on the road was in some kind of trance state, either unaware of anyone else on the road, or aggressively competing to get the upper hand. In both of these two cases, there exists a painful state of unawareness and emotional disconnection from not only oneself, but from everyone else.
On one level, I use driving as a practice. I practice appreciation – for the cooperative drivers, and patience and compassion – for the vacant or aggressive drivers.
On another level, I can’t help but wonder, where’s the love? Where’s the cooperation? Where’s the understanding that all of us on this earth are fellow brothers and sisters, all traversing this journey together?
As a kid growing up in the 1960’s & 70’s on a rural farm in southern Michigan, my family and my neighbors all cared about, shared, and took care of each other. If a neighbor was sick or needed help, we all chipped in. When we had extra veggies or fruits from our garden, we brought some to our neighbors, and they did the same for us. We lived in a cooperative and caring way.
I’ve heard historians say that cooperation and caring within communities is one of the very reasons that the human race has survived to continue on today.
Perhaps my sense of modern-day living is skewed, but it seems to me that with such a strong societal emphasis on materialism, people are moving away from mutual care and cooperation, and moving towards disconnection, and competition?
After just recently moving to a new neighborhood, on a beautiful spring morning, I walked up the road with my friend’s sweet leashed dog, to meet my new neighbors. I greeted one of my new neighbors with a smile, an outstretched hand and a “Hello, my name is Ronya, your new neighbor”. She gave me an angry look, and said “You’d better not let your dog piss on my car tires!”. She quickly turned away to walk back into her house. My friend’s dog did not even go near her car. I didn’t expect a “welcome to the neighborhood party or basket”, but besides the sweet older woman living across from me, that’s the closest thing to a greeting I’ve gotten from anyone in this seemingly decent neighborhood.
Obviously, not everyone is as disconnected and uncaring as my “pissy” neighbor, but it seems that many people are just not open to connecting to and caring for each other, anymore. This does not bode well for the survival of the human race.
I don’t know what it is going to take for people to open their hearts to each other. But, I will continue to greet my neighbors, people on the road, and everywhere I go with care, generosity, respect and love.
Until we all awaken together in the “Flow”, please just keep spreading the “Love” everywhere you go.
Written by: Ronya Banks
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